What's the matter with people today? Are we so commitment-phobic that we can't even 'do lunch'? I remember a simpler time when lunch was simply lunch. Friends committed to meet somewhere, some day, at some time to simply enjoy each others' company. AND EVERYONE SHOWED UP!! Nothing better came along.
I know of a woman who put on a spectacular party for no minimal amount of money, I'm sure, and sent out invitations to fifty people. Thirty of the fifty RSVP'd with a YES ... and only one showed up. One guest who had responded with a 'yes' told me later she had gone shopping with a friend. The worse part of that faux pas was that she KNEW SHE WAS LETTING HER FRIEND DOWN ... and it didn't seem to matter to her at all. What in the hell is that about???